I never believed the saying, "This hurts me more than it hurts you".
Until now.
Sometimes you have to let your children fail in order to teach a life lesson.
Stand back, say, "You do what you want to do, but it is wrong for the following reasons...". Then, let them go along their way. Just pray that they find their way back onto the right path.
The "kid" messed up the first year of college. No more funding from me until it's determined that the "kid" has proper priorities. Meanwhile, swim on your own. If you sink, you sink.
With love...
Man I hope I can avoid that.
My daughter is within striking distance of that degree (105 units earned, 14 units this fall, 130 needed to graduate) while my son is three days into his journey.
I know of two people who pulled the plug on their kids after one lost year at separate $30k-a-year private universities. Ouch!
Posted by: brotherbrown at August 31, 2005 07:23 PM
I feel your pain. It sounds like you're doing the right thing...these things tend to work out in the end. Folks have to find their own way...it may not be our way, but it's their way. It may not be the easy way...but sometime's life's most precious lessons cannot be learned by taking the road most traveled. Some bumps and bruises early can sustain us later in the game. Best of luck.
Posted by: Temple3 at August 31, 2005 09:29 AM